I never expected that in the Spring of 2017 I would be finding the man to spend forever with. The man I would create a family with. But I did….
I got a divorce in 2013, from a man I had spent 8 years. It was a rough year after the divorce trying to find myself again. I dated on and off but never really found anyone I felt I could settle down with. I was the owner of a store with 2 locations, and operating them the best I could on my own, with limited staffing. It made trying to have a dating life difficult.
Spring of 2017 was no change in my mindset until I met him. He was handsome, charming and he was easy to talk to. He was honest, almost too honest if that’s possible. He warned my right away of the chaos his life is. That he had 2 beautiful daughters, but with that came a very toxic and insane ex-wife. An ex-wife that would lash out over nothing, would scream at him in front of the kids (then 3 and 6), and continued to try to control him and his life. She had reached out to every girl he had tried dating up until that point and tried to create hell from day one with everyone that entered his life.
He explained that being his ex-wife, who will continue being referred to as “DB” for the entirety of this blog, was constantly bringing new men around the girls. She would start dating someone and a week later, they’d be doing family things together and then they’d be broken up a few weeks later, and the next guy would roll right in. This was a pattern for her and he told me that his goal was to try and teach his daughters that it wasn’t a healthy way to look at relationships. Because of this, he said until he knew we were going to last for a long time, he wouldn’t be introducing me to his kids. While some may think that is ridiculous, I found it respectable. He was looking out for his kids and I adored that. So we dated for a little over a year before I met the girls, and the very first day that I met them, DB made it very clear that my life was now going to be hell as long as I was in the girls’ lives. Continue reading the plethora of stories that will unfold which will ultimately lead you to where we are now…. Which is her having manipulated the girls into not coming home to us anymore.