The first time I got to meet the girls, we were going to Dad’s (which I’ll use to refer to my now husband) family lake house. I had spent the night prior and he had to pick the kids up from DB’s house that morning. We opted for me to not go with, as we didn’t want to create any unnecessary drama. It was our understanding that she didn’t fully know about me yet. So Dad left to go pick them up while I stayed back at the house waiting.
Dad got the kids and was on his way home to pick me up and was just pulling into our driveway when his phone rang. It was DB. She started yelling at him right away. “You better not be going home to pick up your stupid f*cking girlfriend”. Did he lie and say “nope”? Yes, he did. The kids were in the truck and the last thing they needed to hear was her continuing to scream at their dad. Unfortunately, she somehow knew the truth shortly after and the harassment started. It was a blur of texts and calls throughout the next couple of days. She would either be calling on repeat to say she wanted to talk to the kids, or she’d be calling him threatening to take the kids back, even though it was his parenting time. At one point, she had called and stated that she wanted to talk to the kids so Dad put the phone on speaker phone and set it between the kids. She talked to them for about 20 seconds and then blurted out “did you tell your stupid girlfriend about the nude photos you have of me yet?”
Dad instantly took her off speakerphone and told her how inappropriate she was being and that he didn’t want the kids to have to listen to those kinds of things and he hung up. The remainder of our time was probably another 50 ignored phone calls and texts.
On our way home from the lake house, she called again and stated she would be picking the kids up at the original time stated in the decree. Prior to our little lake house vacation, he had made a text agreement of switching the time of exchanges for the weekend so that he didn’t have to get them back extremely early being the lake house is quite a drive. Due to her not getting her way and me being in the picture, she said she wasn’t allowing that anymore and demanded he bring the kids home early.
When she arrived to pick them up, she got out and the first thing she did was yell at Dad for having me around them…
I should have been smart enough to leave then!