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None of your Business
This is a recent situation… so it’s safe to say there has never been any advances in the situation. Natalie and Zoe had a dentist appointment yesterday. Dad had messaged DB a few days ago asking her if he could take them to their appointment if she wasn’t able to. Her reply was “I’m taking…
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Drunk Calls
I will start this by saying that I am aware that an adult has every right to drink whatever and however many alcoholic beverages as they’d like to do so….safely. I do not judge one for drinking. I do, however, judge you if you’re doing so and it negatively effects your children or mine, and…
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The Hamster
When I came into the relationship, I came with a dog. I have had her for years prior. We have also gotten other pets since and those pets continue to stay in our home only. We do not, nor have we ever, expected to split custody of pets. I guess we DB wasn’t aware of…
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Flying Shoes
Towards the beginning of the time I was involved in the girls’ lives, I would not go with when Dad picked them up from DB’s home. I wanted to avoid conflict and drama, and honestly, with the things she had been saying about me, I didn’t want to be around her. Unfortunately, there were times…
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Lost Items
Throughout the years, we had noticed that anything the girls had from our home, if it ended up making it’s way to DB’s house, it would disappear. Dad used to have the thought that the items belong to the kids, so if they want to bring things back and forth, they should be able to.…
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Adding to the family
As mentioned in a prior post, Dad and I had 2 daughters of our own, bringing our family to a total of 6. When we got pregnant with our first and we were ready to tell people, our first priority was to tell Natalie and Zoe. I loved those girls like they were my own…
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Parental Rights
Dad and DB have always had 50/50 custody in all ways. Unfortunately, DB still felt she was the majority parent and that she was able to make all decisions without Dad’s consent or even his opinion. In some situations, that’s fine. When it comes to doctors appointments and schooling, I think it’s important that parents…
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Forced Choices
Shortly after I had come into the girls’ lives, a school event came about. This was a “build with dad” workshop type thing, where kids could come in with a father figure and built a wooden airplane. Dad had previously taken Natalie when she was a year or two younger, so he felt it was…
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Good Times
Before I really tackle all of the toxicity that we’ve been through, I do want to emphasize that the kids and I had a very close bond. When we met, they were constantly asking Dad if I was coming over. Day after day, I would get a message while I was working saying that the…
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The White Bus
When the kids were at home with us, they were supposed to ride the school bus. The bus got there every morning and we would always remind them to ride the bus home from school also. Unfortunately, DB would always come up with an excuse as to why she needed to drive them home instead.…